What Really Matters?

At the end of our lives when we are laid to rest, the stone at the head of our grave gives brief summary to the entirety of our days on this earth.

Serious, comical, poetic or simple styles all reflect one and only one element of life.

Regardless of our success, accomplishments and notable achievements, the only thing that seems to matter enough to be engraved in epitaph are the relationships of our life.

Loving Father, Mother, Brother, Sister, Son, Daughter, Wife or Husband and Compassionate Friend are the kind of words most often inscribed. The final twitter post of our life seldom includes anything more than a simple summary of the relationships we had.

It seems clear that our relationships define us, so the question arises, are we putting the emphasis on them that they deserve?

How do you choose to relate?

I remember when I was in the Boy-Scouts, we were taught a simple principal when we went into the wilderness for camping expeditions. “Leave it better than you found it”, meaning if someone else had left some trash behind, clean it up though it’s not yours, respecting nature and the people who may come afterward. I think that is a great principle for relationships. Taking the time to clean someone else’s garbage and help the people we relate with in life become better and better, not just so you can enjoy their company, but so others can too.

There are a few skills we need to be able to do that, one is letting someone else help you get better at life, another, and probably the most important, is learning about life, it’s purpose and design, when we understand that, we can guide people towards it, and we are less likely to resist those guiding us.

I believe the Bible offers more than clues and hints to this stuff.. Why not read some if it today?

 

Could you imagine if every driver in Chennai followed the Road Rules

A friend of mine was visiting Chennai for the first time, as we drove through the city he was amazed at the careless aggression of all vehicles. Cars, Bikes, Auto’s, Lorries, Bus’ and even pedestrians use the road as though they are the only ones who need to get any where. My friend said ” I think I know why this Kolaveri Di”

Could you imagine if every driver in Chennai followed the road rules. I am convinced that if we all followed speed limits (minimum and maximum), as well as lane discipline and obeyed the traffic signals (red means stop, green means go), traffic would flow smoothly and we would all get where we wanted to go faster and with less frustration.

All of us drivers know the rules of the road, we expect others to follow them but we often make exceptions for ourselves; “I know its a one way, but I just need to go a little way to connect to my street”. The problem arises when everyone allows themselves these same exceptions and if you can do it, why not everyone else too.

For the most part, rules are established to create order. Laws and systems are not so much to take away freedom, but rather to offer a better freedom for everyone.

Galatians 5 offers this opinion.
It is absolutely clear that God has called you to a free life. Just make sure that you don’t use this freedom as an excuse to do whatever you want to do and destroy your freedom. Rather, use your freedom to serve one another in love; that’s how freedom grows. For everything we know about God’s Word is summed up in a single sentence: Love others as you love yourself. That’s an act of true freedom.

If you bite and ravage each other, watch out – in no time at all you will be annihilating each other, and where will your precious freedom be then? My counsel is this: Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit. Then you won’t feed the compulsions of selfishness. For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with selfishness. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day.

Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence? It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on. This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God’s kingdom. But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard – things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely.